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Holiday Traditions

By: Casey Crow

Thank you, Samantha, for hosting me at Chick Lit Plus and helping me celebrate the release of my debut CAN’T FAKE THIS. I’m a huge fan of your blog, and it’s an honor to be here.

A divorcee ready to reenter the dating world, Anna Ryan is determined to be the best “product on the market,” which requires a lot more experience so she propositions sexy police officer Chase Harris to teach her how to make hot, passionate love as opposed to just having sex. He takes it a step further, instructing each lesson based on The Twelve Days of Christmas.

Anna and Chase know what will keep them busy for the Twelve Days of Christmas. What about you? Do you have any special holiday traditions for you or your family? What’s your favorite? I love the craziness of Christmas Eve at my dad’s with all the grandkids tearing into to gifts all at once. I love the excitement of my children when they wake me up at six a.m. on Christmas morning, and I won’t let them go downstairs until I can get down there with camera in hand.

I’d love to hear your thoughts. Merry Christmas!

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The Scarlett O’Hara Effect

Thank you Chick Lit Plus for inviting me over! Those that know me are fully aware I pretty much have five passions in life – my kids, writing, dancing, working out, and pageants. I’m a southern girl so in a shout out to the South, I’m going to talk about something we down here below the Mason Dixie Line just LOVE! Pageants! I’ll toot my own horn, but I’m a pageant guru. In essence, that means I’m like one of those old men that sit around and quote baseball statistics. Only, I know what color dress Miss Mississippi wore for talent in 1984, and…well, you get the idea.

I think my first pageant experience was when I was five, but really got the bug when I turned fifteen. I’ve competed on the local, state, national, and international levels and in every sector of pageantry you can imagine. In college, I participated in the Miss Universe and Miss America systems. A huge highlight was competing in Miss Alabama for several years. I was Miss University of Alabama, an honor I still have no qualms bragging about! Another special title for me was Miss International Motorsports Hall of Fame. The title is long, but getting to meet Jeff Gordon (sigh!) as well as other famous NASCAR drivers and ride atop the Pace Car to open a Talladega race made memories I’ll never forget. Fast forward to present day – I’ve been a pageant coach for over fifteen years with a dang impressive track record. I also work as a professional emcee and judge (Miss America certified) and big surprise, my daughter now competes, and kindly points out that she has won way more titles than I ever did. In fact, we just returned from a weekend at the Miss Alabama Outstanding Teen Pageant (the teen division of Miss Alabama/Miss America) where my daughter was presented as a “Rising Star.”

To give you a little history, a unique American tradition began in 1921, as a promotional gimmick when Atlantic City, New Jersey, hotelmen decided to stage a flashy fall festival, or “pageant” to entice summer tourists to stay in town past Labor Day. On the boardwalk, “the most beautiful bathing beauties in America,” strutted their stuff. Newspaperman Herb Test said, “Let’s call her Miss America!” Eight contestants competed with Margaret Gorman, who represented the nation’s capital as Miss Washington D.C., won. The sixteen-year-old schoolgirl was a dead ringer for reigning matinee superstar, Mary Pickford. Talent became mandatory in 1938 and scholarships were first awarded in 1945.

The next big pageant came along in the 1950’s when Miss America 1951 Yolande Betbeze refused to pose in a swimsuit, insisting that she was a classical singer, not a pin-up. (BTW, she is a native of Mobile, Alabama, where I live!) Officials supported her decision, but main sponsor Catalina Swimwear quit and started the sexier Miss USA, Miss Universe, and Miss World. In case you don’t know, Donald Trump now owns those systems. I also think it’s rather interesting to note that these systems were the first to work for world charities, even beginning in their earliest year of 1951, while Miss America is now better known for supporting its national platform, the Children’s Miracle Network, along with each contestant’s personal issue.

Basically in the United States, Miss America and Miss USA are the premier two pageants. Many others exist including those for women of all ages, single, married, divorced, minorities only, plus size, and even senior citizens. There are pageants for teens and children young as zero. The first international pageant for children was staged in Miami, Florida, in 1960. It was Little Miss Universe.

To be blunt, pageants are a way for the owners/directors to make money. Most, particularly those involving children, most likely began when someone got mad about something and broke away, founding another system. Each new system had a new set of rules regarding dress, make-up, modeling, talent, etc. That’s why you now have everything from all natural (no make-up and minimal sparkles) to glitz (think Toddler’s and Tiara’s). It’s true, in glitz pageants, spray tans, flippers (fake teeth), hair pieces (extensions and/or wigs), Tammy Faye Baker make-up, and lots and lots of rhinestones are not only necessary, but required to win. Glitz pageants are the ones giving away cars and ginormous crowns. Talent is usually optional while “fancy” modeling rules the runway. Even boys can compete!

The more natural ones opt for scholarship money. Most of them and the middle-of-the-road (a little make-up) pageants focus more on talent and are considered to be Youth Development Programs (YDP) as opposed to a “pageant” where you win a crown and go home. YDP’s provide a “reign” and not only for the winner, but all contestants involved have the opportunity to participate in parades and entertain at various festivals, fairs, and other venues throughout the year. This provides opportunities to be on stage (or doing backhandsprings on a flat bed trailer as I often did) and try out different talents or work on public speaking skills. A girl may sing one number and dance the next. That usually means changing with a few mamas holding up beach towels to create a dressing room. Who said pageant life was glamorous? Participants also meet political leaders and take part in charitable events. Friendships are formed and competing many times becomes secondary to having fun with friends.

Opponents to pageants say they degrade women and children, turning them into puppets and sex objects. Contestants often develop eating disorders and spend way more money than they ever receive, even in the popular scholarship based Miss America and Distinguished Young Woman (formerly Jr. Miss – which does not consider itself a pageant, but for argument’s sake, I’m including it as a scholarship source for young women). They say that pageants encourage women/girls to not be their true selves, but a made-up version, which encourages excess plastic surgery. The Jon Bennett Ramsey incident still haunts us, but her parents maintained, as the vast majority of pageant parents do, that this is hobby. Boys play baseball. Girls put on pretty dresses and smile.

Proponents argue that pageants develop poise, self-confidence, and talent. Lynn Maggio, 2011 Mrs. Alabama International believes, “pageantry has given me the confidence to explore other opportunities. It has contributed to the way look and feel, put me in the public eye, and helped me use the abilities and talents I have that otherwise I would not have been exposed.” Laura Newton says, “I have two daughters that have competed in pageants for the last ten years. I can see a difference in their self-confidence, ability to speak in front of others, and their ability to interview well. I feel they have grown from this experience socially and mentally.” I can attest that pageant experience gives you the skills to think on your feet and speak in front of a crowd with zero prompting and preparation. Just this fall, Miss Alabama 2010 Ashley Davis http://www.missalabama.com/ and I were emceeing together. There was probably an hour of technical difficulties, but the show never slowed or stopped because we were able to adlib, interview each other and audience members, speak on our personal platforms, tell jokes, and entertain. (Thank you Ashley!)

Those skills translate into other areas of life. For example, having been interviewed in front of judges at a pageant makes a job interview a cakewalk because pageant judges are famous for asking (1.) General pageant questions (What is your ambition and why? What three words best describe you? (2.) Current events (How do you feel about the US government’s involvement in Egypt? Name your Senator, Congressman, and the president’s daughters.), and (3.) Stupid pageant questions (What kitchen utensil best describes you? If you could be a car, animal, color, flower, etc. what would it be and why?). Don’t forget you have about two seconds to come up with an intelligent reply. Interview questions make you think on your feet and develop the skills to articulate opinions. Research has shown that pageant participates do well academically in school because of the discipline pageants develop. Girls must practice their talent, modeling (yep, I’ve walked around my house with a book on my head in pajamas and high heels), and study up on interview (read the newspaper and watch CNN). Other advantages are increased interest in community service and volunteerism, bonding time between parent and child (unless you have one of those moms), and increased in physical health (no jiggly thighs in swimsuit). It’s important to mention that Miss America’s stance on the swimsuit competition is they keep the tradition, not because that’s how the pageant got its start, but because the American public expects its winner to be beautiful and physically fit.

So why are pageants so popular in the South? The entire top five in Miss America 2009 were all southerners (including Miss Alabama!) and as much as we like to think Southern Belles are just plain prettier, that’s not the case. Pageant judge Cheryl Bonner coins Southerners’ appreciation of beauty as The Scarlett O’Hara Effect. Foo foo hairdos and fancy dresses come from that old Southern Belle look which we southerners have been exposed to all our lives as a form of beauty. In essence, we love our traditions. Since pageants have been around for nearly 100 years, it makes sense that we would love parading that beauty around and watching it.

What’s your take on pageants? My seven year-old pageant veteran advises, “Be sure to wear a slip because those dresses itch so bad you’ll feel like a cheetah is attacking you!” Why do you think we are obsessed with pageants in the South? Do you have a pageant experience you want to share? I’ll go first and admit my most embarrassing story. Before evening gown competition in a Miss Alabama preliminary, I went to the restroom then went on stage with my dress tucked in my panty hose! Thankfully, the dress was full and created a bustle of sorts. Here’s another memory. Luckily, they have all these fancy pasty gadgets nowadays, but back in the day, one had to tape their breasts for extra perkiness. I used cloth first aid tape, but once I was out used Duck Tape. Can you say pain? There was not enough baby oil in the world to make getting that stuff off hurt any less. I’ve had “wardrobe malfunctions” too, but simply tugged on that top back in place and kept on dancing. I’ve even made the mistake of going to the restroom after swimsuit competition and let me say that spray glue on one’s behind mixed with a toilet seat HURTS! After that experience, I added baby wipes to my list of “must haves” along with Q-tips, lipstick, mascara, and hairspray. Lots of hairspray.

Reference: http://pageantcenter.com/history

Guest Post by Casey Crow: Do’s and Don’t …

Do’s and Don’t for Conference First Timers
By: Casey Crow

Last summer was my first time attending the RWA National Conference. Actually, it was my first writer’s conference period. In fact, I had only been a member of RWA for a whopping two months. Talk about jumping in with both feet. Heck, talk about jumping in headfirst.
Strutting around with my neon orange FIRST TIMER sticker, a.k.a. CLUELESS, I had no idea what to expect, aside from being ecstatic about four days away from life as a domestic goddess. Five ladies from my chapter joined me in Washington, D.C., and of course I couldn’t find any of them when I first arrived. My roommate was also an unknown face I connected with through a mutual author friend (thank goodness that worked out!). Over the course of the next four days, I picked up on a few tidbits that might help you not feel completely overwhelmed at your first conference.

Do’s
1. EXCHANGE BUSINESS CARDS. Cynthia Eden, author of ETERNAL HUNTER (Kensington Brava) encourages everyone to “Get business cards made. Be sure to write your name, your genre, your website (if you have one), and your email address on the card. If you’ve got a fun tagline, definitely include that – the tagline will help folks to remember you!”
2. MEET PEOPLE. Realize you’re going to be surrounded by a bunch of introverts pretending to be extroverts, so this is not the time to be shy. Feel free to bust up in the middle of a group and introduce yourself. Okay, that might be pushing it, but you mustn’t hesitate to ask, “Is this seat taken?” when you head into the banquet room for lunch. Turn those seven strangers at your table into friends. Chat about where they live, what they write, and if they’re published. Sometimes, like me, you get lucky and sit next to an author you’ve recently read. Published authors are founts of information about the industry. They’ll also discuss their writing schedule, providing valuable insight on how you too can find time to write. Once again, and this of utmost importance, do not leave the table without passing out your business card. Consider it a wasted trip if you do not come home with a pocket full of networking opportunities.
3. USE PROMO MATERIALS. Even if you are unpublished, conferences are a fantastic way to get your name out there. Goody rooms are set up for fellow authors to provide free give-aways (everything from pens to books). Not only is it a great pick-me-up to munch on the Hershey Kisses attached to promo cards, but think how nice it would be if you were the author offering chocolate or some other fun item? There is no need to spend a fortune. Homemade items are fine. Remember you just want something memorable and reflective of you.
4. DRESS NICELY. Pretty much everyone wears pants, capris – nice casual outfits. Some, even well known, published authors walk around in jean shorts (I don’t recommend this), but the point is be yourself and be comfortable. Keep in mind however, that first impressions are everything. Kimberly Killion (HIGHLAND DRAGON, Kensington Zebra) explains “the conference is one giant job says interview.” The image you portray has a direct reflection on your work as an author, regardless of whether or not you think it should or want it too. For example, Hank Phillippi Ryan dresses to a tee in business suits and heels and because of such, she stands out. I remember her name and what she looks like, so the next time I see one of her books in the store I’m more likely to buy it. I’m not saying you need or should wear suits and heels. No one does, but Hank. It’s her personality, her image…her brand. Jessica Trapp wears a braid around the crown of her head just like her medieval characters. Kimberly Killion sports a beautiful Scottish plaid sash because her characters are Scottish. These ladies are marketing themselves along side their characters. It’s not always easy to distinguish between urban fantasy and inspirational authors, so remember to think of yourself as a brand and sell yourself with a personality!
5. DRESS WARM AND COMFORTABLE. Unless hot flashes are currently your friend, bring a jacket because you will freeze your tail off in those workshops. And more importantly, wear comfortable shoes. No joke, I wore my Fit Flops with my cute little sundress while walking to the pitch room (allow time for the quarter mile walk and time to find it). When I got there, I changed into my heels to meet with editors and agents. Now, grant you, that was completely unnecessary because the majority of editors and agents are in flats, but I’m short and a major girly girl so what can say? I like my heels. Again, it goes back to the brand I want to present.
6. TRAVEL LIGHT. You will receive a huge bag from RWA to carry around, but it gets heavy quickly from all the free books and goody room loot so empty it out each day and only tote around one tube of lipstick, business cards, and your laptop for workshop note taking (or my tried and true pen and paper). This bag will also come in handy for the trip home when your suitcase is overflowing from free treats.
7. ATTEND BOOK SIGNINGS. They are fun and you get free books! Okay, you might miss a workshop and wait in line an hour, but you’ll come home with your very own novel signed by THE Nora Roberts! Even if the line of a well-known author is long, stay there or they will run out of books. Also, take advantage of
meeting new authors because they A.) Greatly appreciate it when they look busy
instead of sitting around watching those trying to avoid eye contact with them.
B.) These authors are usually willing to give you helpful advice and a business
card. After all, they were probably in your shoes a year ago. They are getting
started and still need to network. Jillian Burns, Harlequin Blaze author, even
offered to critique my work within five minutes of learning I had a WIP geared
toward Blaze! It’s definitely true that romance writers are extremely supportive
of one another.
8. BUILD SHIPPING COST INTO YOUR BUDGET. I racked up three boxes of Christmas presents (mostly to me) at the book signings. You can steal boxes from the signing rooms, but know right up front that shipping them home doesn’t come cheap. In D.C., the guest hotel had a FedEx office within the hotel, which was a lifesaver. However, check their office hours and make sure you get in line early since a thousand other folks are shipping too.
9. BE READY TO PITCH AT THE DROP OF A HAT. You never know when you might bump into an editor or agent on the elevator (they are usually the ones with the name tags flipped over – in which case, do not bother them at that moment.) However, if they strike up a conversation, go for it. It’s a pretty safe bet that the ladies’ room is not the time or place either.
10. CATCH PUBLISHER SPOTLIGHTS. This is where editors give great industry info. You learn exactly what they are hoping to acquire, and you can get the inside scoop very quickly.
11. BRING A CAMERA. Imagine how fabulous your website will look with a photo of you and a New York Times Best Seller or RITA nominee at your side.
12. HAVE AN ANSWER FOR “SO, HOW ARE YOU ENJOYING YOUR FIRST CONFERENCE?” You will get asked this about a hundred times a day. Just a suggestion…you probably don’t want to say you hate it. No really, do not complain in public. If you have blisters on your toes the size of quarters, suck it up. If your favorite author turns out to be a dud in person, this is not something you should share with a complete stranger or anyone in hearing distance. You never know who’s listening and it will only make you look bad.
13. HAVE FUN! Enough said.

Don’ts
1. DON’T STRESS. It’s a lot to take in. Chapter conferences are more laid back because of the small numbers, whereas over a thousand women (and men) attend Nationals. Either way, relax and pace yourself. Don’t stress over attending the workshops. I sent practically two days in the pitch room and missed out on a ton or seminars, but hey – that’s why they sell the sessions on CD ROM. And, even if you wanted too, there is no way to attend everything on your wish list. Keena Kincaid, author of TIES THAT BIND (The Wild Rose Press) says, “Even seasoned conference goers can forget to take RWA national in stride. For newbies, the myriad workshops, speakers, and panel discussions can be overwhelming. Know going into it that you can’t do it all – so be selective. Take an honest assessment of your work, then put together a plan for addressing the weaknesses by going to the right workshops and discussions. No matter how interesting a career workshop may be, if you need foundational work on character development, go to the character development workshop. Otherwise, you may never have the chance to use what you learn in the career workshop.”
2. DON’T BE AFRAID TO ASK QUESTIONS. People expect it of those with FIRST TIMER stickers and they will be happy to help. For example, if there were two workshops I wanted to attend at the same time, I asked around to see what others thought. Turned out, one of my new writer friends was debating over the same two so I went to one and she the other. Then we met up later and shared notes. Asking fellow writers is the only way you are going to learn what certain editors like, which agent might be a good fit for you, and how the industry works. Finally, raise your hand during Q&A periods! Publisher spotlights and all the workshops have them, so take advantage and learn as much as you can about your craft.
3. DON’T VENT. Amanda Collins, President of the Gulf Coast RWA Chapter, warns “The one BIG thing I think newbies should remember is to be very careful about venting in public areas of the conference hotel. Romance is actually a pretty small world and even though as a newbie you might feel insignificant, at any given moment you could be one degree of separation away from the biggest names in the industry. That frumpy woman standing behind you at Starbucks could very well be the biggest editor at the NY publisher you want to buy your book. The writer standing beside you in line for the Literacy Signing, the one you tell how much you hated BIG NAME AUTHOR’s latest book, might be BIG NAME AUTHOR’s critique partner. The writer you sit next to at the Awards Luncheon, the one you tell about how unprofessional you thought the agent you just pitched to was, just might be that agent’s client. Be polite, be friendly, and above all be professional. It will stand you in good stead later on down the road.”
4. DON’T LET EXPENSES HOLD YOU BACK. Plan in advance (I know, I didn’t exactly follow my own advice here). Start saving now for July or even 2011. Some chapters hold drawings or contests, which pay registration fees. Pack cereal bars in your suitcase so you don’t spend ten bucks every time you want a snack. Getting a roommate is the biggest cost cutter. If everyone you know already has a roomie, check out writer blogs for roommate requests. They pop up several weeks and even months before the conference. Another way to save money in the long run is to kill two birds with one stone. Consider making the conference a family vacation. Come a day early and stay a day late. You’ll still get conference hotel rates, plus you, hubby, and the kiddies can enjoy the sights. You may get left out on some of the fun, but while the family is hiking the pavement in the hot sun, you’ll be salivating with your passion in the A.C. Plus, if you stay over, you miss the Fed Ex line, but again – check the office hours beforehand because they change as soon as the convention is over.
5. DON’T ATTEND RECEPTIONS YOU AREN’T INVITED TOO. I am humiliating myself in the attempt to prevent other first timers from doing what I did. Publishing houses host open houses for all attendees and they also hold receptions for “their” authors. Unfortunately, Harlequin held both at the exact same time and in my excitement, I failed to double check the location in the program book. I simply looked at the big Open House sign by the door. I’m sure that lovely Harlequin editor doesn’t remember me from Adam, and in fact was very nice about sending me on my merry way, but next time I know there are two different kinds of open houses.
6. DON’T BE RUDE TO AGENTS. Even if you’re lucky enough to already have one, please don’t say, “I already have an agent” as soon as you are introduced to one. You may be perfectly happy with your agent, but in this business, he or she may not be representing you two years down the road. Wouldn’t it be bad if that agent you snubbed at the conference now refuses to represent you because you were rude?
7. DON’T GO OVERBOARD AT READERS FOR LIFE. This is a wonderful autograph party where you buy books and all the proceeds are donated to a literacy charity. Now, unless you truly want to make a large, tax deductible contribution, all the books can be signed by the same author for FREE later on at book signings. They don’t tell you this beforehand. Actually, many veterans don’t even take a bag to the party so they won’t be tempted, but I recommend doing so because you’ll discover a ton of new authors (and famous ones) and it is for charity.
8. DON’T BRING MANUSCRIPTS. Editors and agents flew on planes just like you and have no room in their suitcase for 300 pages. If they request it, send it to them after the conference with a nice big REQUESTED label!

Finally, should you happen to be running late for the RITA Awards Banquet, it’s not the end of the world. Sitting in the last row made me first in line at the chocolate bar for the after party. Drinks come from a cash bar so put some moolah next to the lipstick in that cute little beaded bag. Yep, you wear cocktail or formal attire on the last night. I promise you’ll feel like a princess.

Casey Crow lives in south Alabama and writes contemporary romances with the tagline “Sexy, Sassy & Southern.” Though she is currently unpublished, HUSTLER’S DREAM is the first manuscript to watch out for. Visit her at www.caseycrow.com.